Rapism: Who is to blame?

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One of the plethora of phenomena ripping through the dignities of individuals, shattering livelihoods and fiercely claiming lives, is spelled RAPE. The African Commission for Women and People’s Rights describe this unrepentant evil as one of the most repugnant affronts to human dignity and the range of dignity-related rights, such as security and integrity of the person.

Daily violent occurrences of rape and sexual abuse are as severe as affecting close to a billion women and girls worldwide. If you have a nose for news, your ear would have been drummed with the loudest of rape incidents recently reported like the case of Nigeria and Cameroon where girls were not only inhumanly sexually abused, but life derogatorily snatched from them.

Rape is a highly gender sensitive topic. One of male rape myths assumes that boys or men cannot be sexually abused. Nevertheless, reality presents women and girls as the most vulnerable to predators. Who should take the blame in a rape case still lies in unsettled debate grounds. Society has spanned a good chunk of time continuously making women feel guilty for being victimised.

This is a controversy to the emancipation of critical thinking which finds these blames on the woman,  immaterial. Oftentimes, the woman’s dressing bears the cross for the deviant behaviour of riffraffs who have refused to take the decent path to manhood. How do we come to terms with the ideology that if a girl said “no” to sex what she actually meant was “yes”. Or that it was justifiable to rape a girl if she wore a short skirt. She is abused for her dressing sense, rebunked for her childish character and harangued for her attitude. Yet society marks her entirely responsible for the rapism.

There are contemporary arguments that rapists should take full responsibility for their actions and not display overgrown stupidity in transferring the blame to the victim. Rather, they should be nailed for their inability to call their manhoods to order.

In spite of the pervasiveness of these crimes, where even with a poorly bleeding body and scars reminding of the screams, the victim still loads all the punishment. Worse of, we seem to have insufficient, inconsistent, and unsystematically enforced laws to this regard. This is evident in the question of how many perpetrators get deserved punishment when cases are reported.

World Population Review estimates that approximately 35% of women worldwide have experienced some form of sexual harassment in their lifetime. In the majority of countries that have data available on rape reports, less than 40% of women who experience sexual violence often seek help and Less than 10% seek help from law enforcement. See recent rape statistics of this crime wave by country.

There is a mob cry for immediate actions to decry and downturn the sexual abuse growth curve. We all need safe spaces and charged to leave the world a better place than we met it. We can stop trying to change but be the change we want to see. Little actions of educating our boys and girls to dignified adulthood can do the magic of ethically responsible citizenry.

Dear survivor, instead of bruising yourself because of the abuse, brace up to face the terrifying ghost within and manifest your dreams. In the voice of all victims, we do not get raped because we were not careful, we get raped because someone raped us.


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